Should I tell my psychologist cousin about the abuse?

When I was a child I was abused by two older males - my cousin and the boy next door! As a 20 year old I have been made aware of my desires and my fears expecially since I am studying theology and my ons have been pushed and my beliefs have been turned on my head. I suffer from anxiety and depression and am recovering from religious obsessive compulsive disorder. I also have lots of suppressed emotions like anger and hate. I have told my friends about the molestation and that I have same- attraction but no one in my family knows. I am too scared to go to a therapist, especially a man. I have such terrible androphobia (fear of men) and social anxiety. I want to go to my cousin, she is a psychologist. The only thing that makes me a lil hesitant is that she is a New Ager and I am a Catholic and the molester is our mutual cousin. She is kind of close and fond of this cousin and I am scared of her reaction when I tell her what he did to me. I'm also unsure if it is good or bad if I tell her cuz it's close to home and she will have an emotional involvement. But a good thing is that she knows me and our family, which I think is a bonus. Please help and tell me if she is the right person to go to.